Summary of Dr. Alan E. Fruzzetti & Dr. Marsha M. Linehan's The High-Conflict Couple

Please note: This is a companion version & not the original book. Sample Book Insights: #1 The central idea in this book is that highly aroused, negative emotion is the core problem for high-conflict couples. There are specific skills partners can learn to manage their emotions effectively, which in turn makes effective communication possible. #2 Emotions are complex processes that affect us and others. They are not things, but rather things we do that affect other things inside us and outside us. We don’t have a good word for the process or the whole system in which we have emotions. #3 There are many components to our emotion system. Our attention, sensation and perception, and our awareness of what’s going on around us all influence our emotions. How we label our emotions and how we express them affects the course of those emotions. #4 When we are dysregulated, we are not in control of our emotions. When we are out of control, we are not thinking or acting in a clear manner. We are no longer focused on our longer-term goals but are instead focused on the immediate goal of reducing this negative tension or arousal.